Journal of a 40-something year old wife, mother and chicpreneur.
YOU ARE BROWSING

Last year, I sent my kids to pre-school for the first time. My closest friends would tell you how I cried my eyes out sending the kids to school on the first day. My eldest adapted well to his class from the beginning. My second son who was only 4 years old at the time, however cried his eyeballs out. It took all the strength that I had to stay calm and not cry in front of him and to leave him behind at school.

This year however, I was happy to send my kids back to school after a month-long break. Don’t get me wrong I love my kids but school helps occupy my kids for half a day and gives me freedom during that period to catch up on my to do list with little distraction. This year, the kids are in their second year of pre-school and thank God they were happy to be back in class.

So what did I do with my free time when the kids are back at school?

Well usually I’d clear up things on my to do list, you know… important things like; Facebook-ing, napping and/or catch-up on the latest Life in Pieces episode… I’m kidding but today being the kids first day back at school I did celebrate.

After dropping the kids off I switched on George Michaels’ Freedom to the max and sang out loud while I drove to my favorite neighborhood café.

I ordered the biggest breakfast meal on the menu and ate in peace while scrolling the news on my phone. No multiple questions thrown at me, no listening to the kids complain about 1001 things, no fighting, no crying, no kids pulling on my clothes for attention … just one and a half hours of breakfast, alone, in silence… BLISS!

Then I went back and took a nap with the baby.

I think I gained my sanity back… until the next school break that is…

By the way, have you seen this video by Whoa Susannah? I saw it last year and this video is so me right now!

I started blogging maybe about ten years ago. My first blog was a book review blog called Ulat Buku in the City; obviously inspired by my favourite show then, Sex and the City. Yup, that’s how creative I am with blog names.

Anyway for those who don’t know, Ulat buku in my native language means book worm. When I blogged at Ulat Buku in the City, I blogged for fun and enjoyed socializing with the blogging community discussing the latest book launches and reviews.

After I got married, I still blogged but not consistently. Then when I had kids, I kinda stopped writing and blogging all together. I tried to go back to my blog a couple of times but somehow I felt that I outgrew the blog, specifically the topics I covered. I wanted to write about so many other things plus I was no longer a single girl living in the city, so the name Ulat Buku in the City felt like a misrepresentation of who I was. I started a couple of other new blogs after that but it all died after a few posts.

In the past couple of years, I have been thinking about what to blog about. I kinda wasted time on the thinking and planning that I never got around to the actual writing and blogging.

I just love to write. 

I do. I love to write and blog. It really is my hobby. And in the years that I did not write and blog, I missed it. I missed the process of creating a blog, making friends and communicating with other like-minded bloggers. So I’ve decided, I’m just going to start writing and blogging. No more thinking and planning. I will commit to writing and blogging at least two posts a week in 2017.

My strategy to keep this blog alive is just to write, blog, connect with other blogger and then repeat.

Why 40 and Above?

Well, I’m currently 41 years old and am going through a lot of changes in my life. So I thought why not share what life in the 40’s is like from my perspective. This blog will cover my personal interest; from books to family to food and fashion (or lack thereof).

I have so many things to share about life in my 40’s and I think it’s enough to keep this blog running for a long time.

Our little princess is almost three months old. Time really does fly by. I feel like it was just yesterday that my husband was rushing me to the hospital to give birth to her.

Not even three months old and she’s already smiling when she sees me and hears my voice. I love babies at this age. They’re so small, so innocent and so pure. My favourite moment is bonding with the baby during breastfeeding. There’s just this magical feeling when you hold them in your arms and they look you straight in the eye while they nurse. I love it.

Like I said, time passes by so fast. I hope I’ll remember this moment forever.

Don’t grow up too fast baby girl.

I thought it was apt that my first post for this blog be a quick review of what I’ve achieved in 2016.

This will obviously be a short post.

In late 2015, I decided to break the bank, quit a job I loved and take a break from my career to spend time at home with my family and pursue my personal interests. I’m very blessed to be able to take time off from work.

This past year, I completely took my career hat off and became a full-time mom. I spent quality time with the family especially the kids; I was there for them when they needed me without worrying about work responsibilities and that felt really great. I did activities with the kids that I wasn’t able to do much off when I was juggling a career; simple things like – playing with the kids, reading to them, catching a movie with them – like I said simple activities that has become precious moments for me.

On a personal level, I have to admit that I have wasted my year off. I had a list of things I wanted to do: explore business ideas, exercise, read books, start a blog – literally had 10,000 things on my to do list for the year. I did none of them.

The only thing I did however, was binge-watch TV shows. I caught up with old and new TV series that I never had a chance watching when I was working. So, I guess on a personal level I achieved being a successful couch potato with the ability of binge watching a whole season of a TV series within two days tops. Woohoo! Pat on my back.

So, I asked myself:

Could I have done more and striked-off some of my 2016 to-do list?
Exactly, what did I achieve this year?
Am I disappointed with my achievements this year?

The answer:

Well, of course I could have done more to achieve the personal goals I had set out for myself in early 2016.

So, what have I achieved this year?
Reviewing the past year, I believe my achievement is more focused on relationships. I feel that I have spent quality time building relationships and memories with the people that matters to me the most; my family.

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